Aisha just as the meaning of her name is "Full of Life". There is never a dull moment when she is around. She always has something to tell us, something to be excited about . It was a relaxed Sunday today. Today was my friend's 40th birthday and considering the current circumstances, we were to make a visit to her place for wishes. Aisha who is anyways excited about birthdays was also excited that we would do a repeat of yesterday's vanilla cupcakes. All day she kept reminding me of the birthday. She helped me with the cupcakes and did most of the piping, made a birthday note (which she did not show me), got her birthday girl hairband ready.
When it was time to go, she was probably the most excited . Once we reached there , she excitedly hands over the birthday note( i was touched by the note which also mentioned that my friend should have a bootiful lyfe ahead) to my friend and goes to the 1st floor with her brother to meet my friends ' kids. After a while the 2 other kids(aged 12 and 8) come down along with my son(aged 11). When I enquired about her , my son told me she was just sitting in a corner quietly reading the books she got from home . I was busy chatting with my friend and probably thought she was not interested in the games the boys were playing.
When it was time to go(maybe in 30 min), i asked one of the boys to call Aisha downstairs. When I asked her to put on her shoes , she had started crying hysterically . Now what happened? I did not understand. She was crying and at the same time trying to tell me that the boys did not share any games with her and also did not involve her. This was our first visit to someone's place in about 75 days owing to the lockdown and she had brought with her , her own set of todo things in her mind. One such to do was to play with other kids. When it did not happen , she was heartbroken.
We somehow just carried her and got her home. She continued to cry non stop. I take her to the room and try calming her . Talk to her about everything from how she is a part of me to how she cannot shed tears unnecessarily. It took me almost 30-40 min to cajole her , to get a smile back on her face and calm her down. She suddenly started talking about her bestie as well who moved to Melbourne just before the lockdown.
I then had to get into the thoughts and feelings of a 6 year old. She saw my son having his bestie over a couple of times in the last 2 weeks and all of us at different occasions having our conversations with friends. SO somewhere she felt left out . She carried all those dreams to meet other kids when we went to my friends' house but alas things did not go the way she thought it would.
I had to tell her subtly that we cannot always expect other to reciprocate our feelings. Secondly tears are too precious to shed on others. I also told her that she would exhaust the tears quota given to her for a lifetime and she would preserve it for other occasions . She seriously asks me if its that way 😅.
Things settled, Madam A has a quick dinner followed by the mini cupcakes. It left me pondering that I need to work on her mental strength to be able to accept "non acceptance"...
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