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Identify Bullying

Both the kids requested to be treated to mug brownies once back from school today. Mug brownie was attempted a couple of times in the past but when it had to go wrong , it will . I made 2 seperated mugs, one for each. Both looked the same in the raw form , just that there was a little flour seen in one of them , which I just marked for 6 year old daughter.
I ask hubby to turn off the oven and go to pick kids from school. On my return I find the 2 mug brownies in 2 different states . One perfectly done , the other with oil oozing out . I know a fight will ensue , hence promptly declare that the oily one is sonny boy's (considering that he had more than his share on past occasions).
I was confident that daughter will share her brownie and she actually readily agreed . But what I saw after that was a quiet child . When I spoke to her she said she wanted to keep admiring looking at the dish and eat it later when it cools down and then scoop it out like a cup( the baker in her wanted to ). Son on the other hand wanted to dig into it piping hot.
Then why did she agree ? It is a form of bullying. My 6 year old thought that if she didn't agree , her 12 year old brother wouldn't get her involved in playing his video games and play hide and seek with her. I politely told my son that he would get another one but needed to wait. My daughter was happy and waited for it to cool . My daughter had scooped out hers even before my son's second round was done and eagerly shared it with her brother and in fact all of us .
We talk about bullying happening in school , on play grounds , among friends but there is bullying right inside our homes. One instance I have seen is parents ( dads' in many cases ) suddenly walking in and declaring they need the remote of the Tv ..
For now here are the mug brownies . The good and the not so good .



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